Couples Therapy
Do you feel alone in your relationship?
Are you tired of fighting?
Do you struggle to have a peaceful relationship with your in laws?
Whether you are newly dating or have been married for several years, you might be here because you are tired of your relationship dynamics. You are tired of fighting and just want to find a better way of communicating. Relationships are hard because most of us are not taught how to communicate effectively. Growing up, you may have witnessed a lot of yelling and screaming during arguments or shutting down and walking away. If your parents had an arranged marriage, chances are they did not communicate well and you never witnessed a healthy marriage model. If your parents divorced, you may be hesitant to be fully vulnerable with your partner.
Can couples therapy fix toxic relationships?
Most couples never learned how to communicate in healthy ways. As much as we try not to, we tend to repeat the relationship dynamics we saw between our parents. The good news is that we can change relationship dynamics. In our sessions, we help couples understand how their own parents’ relationship has shaped them. We teach couples how to communicate better and learn conflict management. This foundation successfully sets the couple up for harder conversations to come. We teach and practice tools in session so clients feel more confident to use these tools outside of session.
What are the most common problems addressed in couples therapy?
Communication
In Law issues
Infidelity
Major life changes
Increased conflict
Contemplation of separation or divorce
Falling out of love
Intimacy issues (sex therapy)
At Space to Reflect, our team of therapists believe culture and lived experience play a major role in how we function in relationships. Couples therapy is not about taking sides or proving who is right and wrong, it is about increasing understanding between partners and teaching tools to have a more harmonious relationship.
Couples therapy Might be for you if you want to:
Learn communication skills
Rebuild trust and increase vulnerability
Work through differences in culture and religion
Bring more closeness and connection in long distance relationships
Feel less alone
Learn to express thoughts and feelings
Learn to respond in calmer and less reactive ways
Teach each other what is needed to feel safer in the relationship
Learn how to support your partner who is going through a hard time
Can couples therapy make things worse?
Couples therapy is a very vulnerable experience and can make things worse between partners before things get better. Our therapists work hard to make sure the couple slowly eases into the therapy process and both partners learn to self soothe. We also offer 90 minute sessions for couples who are really struggling and need more support.
How do you know if a relationship is worth saving?
A relationship is worth saving if you still care about your partner and can see glimpses of hope that it can work. Relationships are hard work and you have to commit to choosing you partner every single day. If that commitment is still there from both parties, it is worth saving.
What is the success rate of couples therapy?
The American Association of Marriage and Family Therapists reports an overall success rate of 98%. If both parties are committed to the therapy process, the relationship can get better.